Sisterhood: what is that? To me it is a feeling–a connection. If you are lucky enough or blessed to have actual sisters that you connect with and are close to, and have this added love, then you are truly blessed. I have found you do not have to be related to feel that special bond, like a sister.
My sisters are my friends and my friends are my sisters. This is how I want to live. Why, you may ask? It is important to me to connect with my friends and be aware of the love, support and empowerment I give and receive. It feels right to do that.
We can view the women in our lives as “sisters” or we can view them as enemies. Too many women I know feel that there is competition among women. There is jealousy and insecurity and fear. Oftentimes this competition is for men. We treat men like objects that we must have, and if anyone dare threaten us, our claws come out. I can understand this if it’s a direct threat, but most of the time these are fears we create in our own minds.
We say to ourselves: “oh, she is better than me, she is beautiful, she is smarter, she is more than I could ever hope to be.” We compare ourselves without mercy and usually come up on the short end of the stick. Ask yourself why and think about it. What is the solution to feeling so crappy?
The first and most obvious solution is to see the treasure that you are as a woman and a person, and to love yourself. Then, decide that you want to genuinely connect and love other women and see the beauty in them. To understand deeply that you have it ALL. No one can take anything away from you. You have it all – let me say it again. Women – sisters – we need to unite; then we are strong within ourselves… but, when divided, we really do fall.
The sisterhood starts with you and grows. Create a community of like-minded women, of all ages; from the youngest to the oldest.
I met two wonderful wise women on my last trip. We had such a wonderful time. We talked about all sorts of things that women talk about. I laughed so hard that my stomach hurt. It was awesome. I felt grateful and I became awakened to how it can be between women; what I have been missing and I have been investigating further. I am wanting more of that laughter and love. Sisters: we need to stick together in love. We need to stop the backstabbing and cutting each other down in order to feel better about ourselves. Instead, let’s take personal responsibility for our well being. Let’s feel better about ourselves and be kind to one another!
You might have these thoughts about yourself:
“I’m too fat. Nothing I do is good enough. I’m ugly. I’m so stupid. Nobody could ever love me. If people ever knew what I’m really like, they wouldn’t really like me. I’m so weird. I don’t fit in. I’m different. Nobody understands. I’ll never have a boyfriend.”
These insecurities are just little voices in your head that are trying to keep you safe. They are trying to hold you back from being all you can be.
I believe you are a great person! Don’t let these thoughts stop you.
Instead of fighting against your insecurities, you can transform them.
My attitude is: “So what? I have insecurities, but I don’t let them run my life. I’m okay just as I am.” I don’t fight my insecurities because I know, deep down, they’re not real. They are an illusion, and here to teach me a lesson.
Did you know there’s something good about your insecurities? They are part of your “shadow” side. This is an important part of who you are… they are with you for a reason. But the good news is, they are here to help you, they are a gift.
Your insecurities are here to help you to learn how to connect to your higher self and to your higher power. They are here to help you be vulnerable, which is powerful. Vulnerability is power. This vulnerability will help you connect with other people on a deeper level.
It’s important to express yourself, and be honest with yourself, with your family and friends about your insecurities.
Many people try to run away from these thoughts. They try to eat it away, drink it away, or even have sex to cover up their insecurities. But this isn’t necessary.
Don’t wish you were different because something positive will come out of this. It makes you more real and approachable. It makes you genuine. You’re okay just as you are. Don’t let them stop you.
The difference between a leader and a victim is the choices you make. Chose to no longer be a victim to your insecurities.
In the TV series True Blood, Sookie Stackhouse (played by Anna Paquin, pictured above) is a great example. She doesn’t fit in, and she never did, with the other girls because she’s telepathic. She never had any friends in school because people thought she was weird. She’s always been an outcast. But yet, she has special powers – she has fairy blood, which gives her this power. If ever she’s in fear, she emits bright white light around her. This light empowers her.
She eventually became friends with her insecurities because she had a grandmother who was kind, loving, and believed in her. She felt like she belonged at home, even if she didn’t belong anywhere else. She just decided to accept herself.
Sookie is her own person. Even though she’s been through a lot in her life, she just does her own thing. She accepts who she is and she’s strong, and keeps on going no matter what crisis comes her way.
She is empowered because of her white light. I believe that we all have this white light power. You have it too. This is your soul, your essence. It’s huge! It’s bright! It’s powerful! It emanates from you.
How well do you receive compliments? When someone says to you, “Wow, you look great today”, how would you respond? Would you even believe them? Would you be thinking: “I wonder what they want from me?”
Receiving compliments is allowing your good to come to you. It means you are receiving positive energy. When you resist a compliment, you are blocking energy. How difficult is it to say: THANK-YOU, when someone says , “You look great”? Or “Your eyes are beautiful,” “You are an amazing person”, “You are kind and generous”…the list is endless of nice things people like to say, and to give to others.
Yet so many people have difficulty in accepting compliments. So what, if you don’t believe it at the time. So what, if you are skeptical of people’s motives. “SO WHAT’’ I say. Act “as if” you do believe it and say “thank you” – until you believe it, and respond graciously, with a smile, “thank you”. Practice, practice, practice!
I am a generous giver and an excellent receiver. It keeps the flow going, the beautiful, loving flow of energy. How hard is it? Give compliments to yourself. I believe this helps tremendously. Look in the mirror or even as you are busy doing your daily activities and say to yourself, “You are beautiful. You are gorgeous, healthy and fit. I love you.” They are like affirmations and they are loving and empowering. By receiving compliments you change yourself and your world.
I love to give compliments. I notice the things in people and outside of people that I like and it feels good to say to someone genuinely, something positive, such as, “You have a beautiful smile”.
How are you with giving compliments? More importantly, how are you with receiving them and allowing your good? Think about it. Can you begin with saying, “thank you”, and smiling?
I believe you can. Keep it simple and allow yourself to shine. As always I love feedback, ideas and suggestions.